Motivations 4U

Self-sabotage is uniquely human behavior. Many of us sabotage ourselves when we decide we want something by doing everything we can to ensure we don’t get it. Sound familiar? Although self-sabotage is a subconscious behavior, we can get a handle on it.   There are many reasons that you might sabotage yourself. It’s an extremely common behavior rooted in fear of the unknown. If you’ve immersed yourself in mediocrity, the idea of greatness may be frightening. Ask yourself if you’re satisfied with your life.   Find out why you may self-sabotage:   1.       Control. You might self-sabotage because you have a need to be in control of your circumstances. The easiest and most certain way to stay in control is to maintain the status quo.   ·          If you put your all into something, you run the risk of becoming vulnerable. Fear gets the best of you, and you self-sabotage.   2.       Low self-esteem. Do you feel unworthy of greatness?   ·          For whatever reas

 Your immune system protects you from germs and other foreign substances that could make you sick by making parts of your body heat up and swell. However, sometimes it goes too far. That’s when such inflammation becomes chronic as a response to stress, junk food, or other lifestyle triggers.   This chronic inflammation is associated with many serious health issues, including diabetes, heart disease, certain cancers, arthritis, fatigue, and depression. To reduce your risk, you may need to change your diet and other daily practices.   Start with these ideas for following an anti-inflammatory lifestyle.   Eating to Reduce Inflammation:   Focus on plants. Most vegetables and fruits are rich in protective compounds like antioxidants and polyphenols. Load up on spinach, kale, berries, and citrus fruit. Some vegetables like asparagus and sweet potatoes also serve as prebiotics that tightens your gut and lower inflammation. Just make sure to balance cook

I find it very difficult to deal with the instant gratification of today's world. Where everything comes to us so easily and quickly, learning how to delay instead gratification becomes challenging. I know for me, particularly being a woman in recovery, my first response to any given situation is to react to fix what I'm feeling instantly and dramatically LOL. And although sometimes, when opportunity strikes, you must respond quickly but most of the time, it's best to pause and contemplate to make healthier decisions.   Learning to delay gratification can make you happier and more successful in both your personal and professional life. Psychological studies confirm what many traditions have long taught about the power of mental training: a little self-discipline can yield great results!   Here are some of the benefits of waiting for what you want, as well as techniques for becoming more patient.  Benefits of Delaying Gratification   1.      Improve your academic a

 Playtime isn't just for children. Having fun is essential to your health and wellbeing at any age. When you're enjoying yourself, you're also reducing stress, increasing your energy levels, building stronger relationships, and promoting learning. Be proud of your decision to goof off on a regular basis. Take a look at these ideas to help you bring more recreation into each day.   Change Your Perspective:   Prioritize fun. Do you put off taking a break because you think you have too many responsibilities? Studies show that frequent breaks actually, help you to accomplish more. Enjoy small pleasures. Having fun doesn't have to consume a lot of time or money. Watching cartoons with your kids or walking through a puddle can brighten your day without using up your savings or vacation days. Look on the bright side. Maybe housework and boring meetings make it difficult for you to smile. Try to find a positi

 Grieving the end of a relationship can be painful for both parties.  When we mourn the end of a relationship, it’s normal to miss your ex and the way you felt in that relationship. In healing from the pain that comes after a breakup, we need to accept, let go, and move forward. One way of accomplishing that is by journaling.   Journaling helps get your thoughts and feelings onto paper. You uncover what you’re going through and feeling, then work through solutions while writing. Physically writing down your thoughts and feelings can also help you learn more about what you want.   Understand How Journaling Can Change Your Life   Journaling about what is most meaningful to you can change your daily mood and your life. When you journal, you can write down positive thoughts, clarify personal goals, and keep track of your success.   Sometimes it can be difficult to start journaling. Journal prompts help you explore a stream of consciousness and guide you with questions to proce

When it feels like I have very little steam left in my engine, I head to nature. I find an outdoor environment and get lost in it. There is something healing and renewing about fresh air. Inhaling the scents of the elements of nature connects me to my origin. I am reminded that I am naturally strong and capable.   Outdoor time allows me to heal difficult relationships with friends and family members. The fresh air gives me a clear mind and a shift in perspective.   The same is true when I am searching for new business opportunities at work. I am more innovative when I seek inspiration from nature. I become creative by observing the intricate patterns on leaves and the precision with which nature feeds itself each day. Strolling through the forest nearby teaches me that it is possible to live well with others.   When I see the plants sharing the same resources each day, I know I am capable of living in harmony with my colleagues at work. There are enough opportunities to ma

 As I reflect on how much I have grown in the past year, I can hardly recognize the person I once was.   I am exceedingly grateful that I have taken the time to go on a self-discovery journey. I see myself as the hero of my own story. I have gone down into the depths of my soul and dug out some old fears, which I have now overcome.   I am proud of myself.   I have come a very long way. I have overcome many fears. I now see fear as an ally. I have faced my fears and overcome them. I am stronger than ever.   I now have the confidence to face all obstacles in my life and see them as growth opportunities.   I take the time to journal my experiences. That way, I can remember how far I have come. I have come very far, very fast. I am now ahead of the curve. I am now ahead of my time.   Now, I can be a resource for those who are just recognizing their fears. I can support my coaching better now that I have experienced facing fears personally. I am a more compassiona