Motivations 4U

 Some believe that fate determines their lives. Others abide by the expression, “Life is what you make it.” Although it’s fine to believe in fate, if you want something different, exhilarating, or exciting in life, it might not work out so well to sit around waiting for fate to produce it. Instead, why not see your life as something you have a hand in?         Use these strategies to create the adventures you yearn for:   Try something different. Shake up your routine. For example, if every Friday night you go to the same restaurant for seafood, this Friday, go to the new vegetarian restaurant across town. Or go crazy and go on Thursday! Stop taking the path of least resistance. It’s not unusual to take the path you perceive as “safe”– that provides you with the least obstacles and roadblocks. However, sometimes, you might be compelled to take a rougher road, especially if the end result provides a great adventure. Struggle now to win great rewards later. Refrain from

  Change is inevitable. Look at your hobbies, friends, clothes, taste in music, TV shows, family, and career. Many of those things have changed. The people around you have changed. The political climate has changed. There’s change everywhere.   Change can bring fear, doubt, and uncertainty. However, it’s not helpful to view change negatively. In order to survive, it’s necessary to adapt to change.   There are new experiences and understandings to be gained as a result of the changes in your life. If you never changed, you’d still be playing in the sandbox at the playground and eating dirt.   If you’re finding it difficult to embrace changes in your life, using these strategies can help:   1. Understand that life is always changing. Life is about change. Life is always evolving. It’s the very nature of life. Think about how much you’ve changed since you were an infant. Your body and view of the world have changed considerably over the years. Change is a natural part

  Are your fears holding you back from living the life you deserve? Do you wish you could show more courage in your day-to-day dealings with others?   If you had more courage, maybe you could ask for that raise you've been waiting for, feel more confident in closing that next sale, or even invite the girl of your dreams to go out on a date! The possibilities are endless!   But what is courage, really? Courage is the ability to continue moving forward even in the face of challenge, adversity, and fear. Without fear, there could be no bravery. So being courageous is largely about managing fear as best you can and still taking the best action available to you. Courage Is Like A Psychological Muscle.   Being brave is similar to lifting weights. The more you participate, the easier it becomes. Alternatively, the more you're willing to use and accept fear as an excuse not to move forward, the easier that path becomes. You get good at the things you practice regularly.  

  Significantly changing your life in 30 days really is possible, although not always easy. But even though this adventure is often a big challenge, the payoffs can be enormous.   We've all taken on challenges of one sort of another for 30 days. Maybe you tried a diet or an exercise program. Perhaps you decided to give up TV for 30 days. Even if you didn't stick with the program long-term, the results were great, weren't they? Now imagine if you expanded that idea to incorporate many areas of your life.   This program includes implementing several 30-day challenges simultaneously. You can use these suggestions or develop your own. Try creating a 30-day challenge from each category, and see where your new adventures lead you. 1.      Adjust your finances. Making more money or spending less is always a good financial theme. Alternatively, you might try balancing your accounts each day. 2.      Kick start your physical health. Diet, exercise, or combinations of b

Have you ever found yourself in a position where change was inevitable? You may have felt annoyed, frustrated, or even scared about how that part of your life was going to change. Maybe you felt trapped—the change was going to happen whether you liked it or not. If you rebelled against the change, you know how alarming these types of situations can be.   You might have felt out of sorts or stressed out for days, weeks, or even months. But what if you were to undergo a paradigm shift and begin to view change as opportunity? What if you could reach out and embrace change with open arms?   Read on for some mind-expanding, eye-opening ways to regard change as opportunity in your life:   1.      Accept the idea of change. When you get comfortable with the idea that change is going to happen, it will help you go into a change with less stress. John F. Kennedy once said, "The one unchangeable certainty is that nothing is certain or unchangeable." Change will, in essenc

Below is an excerpt from my article Coping with Personal Change. If you are interested in reading the whole article please comment below with your email and I will send it to you for free!  Coping with Personal Change   Changes often bring with them a feeling of fear, panic, or grief, followed by denial, and finally, acceptance. Such reactions are common in someone who has just lost a loved one or gotten fired from his job.     In the case of a loved one’s death, grief is important. If you refrain from grieving, you block your transformation, and with it, your return to normalcy. Coming to terms with your loss is important and may help prevent long-term depression.   ”If you don’t get what you want, you suffer; if you get what you don’t want, you suffer; even when you get exactly what you want, you still suffer because you can’t hold on to it forever. Your mind is your predicament. It wants to be free of change. Free of pain, free of the obligations of life and death.

Here are some points to ponder, reflect, and even make part of your mantra!   I love when something new comes into my life. New relationships, experiences, and successes all provide a new lease on life for me. Newness brings the feeling of excitement to me and gives more meaning to my existence.   I love getting new challenges and responsibilities at work. They give me a chance to pull on my core strengths. I get the opportunity to prove myself worthy of any promotion which flashes in front of me. Starting a new project at work is like getting that second wind.   Whenever I make a long-awaited purchase, I get so excited to take it home with me. Such experiences take me back to childhood and receiving gifts at Christmas. But I am even more excited as an adult because I see my hard work paying off.   Changing the paint on the walls in my home always makes me feel like a different person. I believe that colors inspire emotion, and I love the emotions that run through me when I gi

The one thing you can be sure of in life is that there will be times when you’re thrown a curveball. Something will happen that you aren’t expecting.  Even though you know you’ve got the strength to handle anything that life brings you, you might still be taken aback by an unexpected change in your life direction.   These suggestions will help you successfully handle some of life’s transitional times:   1.      Take a deep breath. Pause for a moment and give yourself time just to breathe. This one crucial step can psychologically change your state from a “fight or flight” response to a more slowed down cognitive processing state. 2.      Process the information. Next, allow yourself some time to think through what’s happened. This might take a few days, depending on your situation. From your perspective, what occurred? What is the lesson to learn? What is the challenge/opportunity that you gain utilize from this? 3.      Talk about it. Call a close friend or family mem